This sounds simple enough. Just retrain yourself to stop having expectations and accept that life is as it is and not what you wish it to be. Sure. But this is not something you can wake up and master. It takes years and years to get to the point where you actually understand the world ISN’T as you think it should be. Then there’s the stage of denial, where you think there’s something wrong with you. Then you may spend a few more years trying to fix the world so it is what you feel it should be. Some people never stop trying; they get stuck in the perpetual loop of endless disappointment. If only they would… Blame and frustration over things they have absolutely no control over. But if we’re lucky, we come to the understanding that we cannot control anyone except ourselves. This is the wisdom of age. Not that you have to be old to understand. Not physically. Some people are just born with older souls; they’ve learned a lot of hardships in previous lives and carry those lessons with them into the next stage.
I think I’m somewhere in the middle. I may not have mastered the ability in my last life, but I’m ready to work on it in this one. Recognition is the first step. That’s the easy step. The practice of letting go of expectations is a daily struggle. I’m sure it will get easier each day, but for now it’s like climbing a mountain. At first you think, “This is easy! I can do that!” then, when the elevation increases and the hiking becomes more difficult, it takes dedication to not give up. But while it feels impossible, soon the steps become easier. You learn to take one small step at a time and most importantly, be aware. Be aware of each and every step and soon it becomes a learned response. Will I accomplish this in this lifetime? I don’t know. But I know it’s something I have to work on each and every day.